Wednesday, January 14, 2015 by Jake Hahn | Uncategorized
"the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience."
"the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it."
Objective discipline (social oppression) has a way of instilling a certain amount of shame. We're being punished for something we either did or did not do. When this happens, there's a tendency to feel that WE are inherently "bad".
That's what shame is.
Why not use the mode of SELF-DISCIPLINE to achieve the desired outcome of DISCIPLINE and bypass the negativities of shame..?
• relieves the "need" for punishment - taking it out of the equation
• bypasses shaming
• bypasses the potential lowering of self-esteem
• instills self-motivation
• instills confidence
• instills leadership qualities
• forges a stronger "think for yourself" mindset
• helps a person to navigate the world with vision
• they learn to trust themselves
• stand up for themselves
• empowers the person to trust their instincts and act upon them with conviction
• eliminates the "need" for approval from others
Recognize there are still CONSEQUENCES to straying from your SELF-DISCIPLINE; which mainly results in feeling GUILTY that you've let yourself down. GUILT can be a good reminder to stick to your SELF-DISCIPLINE habits and behaviors. A way to gauge where you are in that moment.
Did your actions lead you toward your life goals or veer you off course? THAT is how guilt can be used in a positive way. Remember... GUILT is COMPLETELY different than SHAME.